Nothing worse than a married person whose a phallic-blocker. Mind your own marriage and let the singles do what they want!
If your friends aren’t helping you find your soulmate, you need to re-evaluate your friendship. Relationships are about networking and who better to help you find the love of your life than your friends. Be weary of friends who are in couples who like to have you as the wing-man or comedic relief. These friends don’t want you to be happy or with someone who you takes you away from them.
I’ve had friends who have become territorial or judgemental when I’ve started to date or got a new boyfriend. As flattering as it is to have your friends want all your attention, it’s not healthy and you may wake up alone while they’ve settled down.
If you’re serious about meeting someone, let your friends and relatives know. Don’t keep it yourself, because there’s only do much you can do but you’ll need “pr specialists” to talk up your great qualities and set up dates for you. You never know, your yoga partner or barista may have your “Prince Charming” on their contact list and if it works out how fun will your wedding be!
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Come back later this week as I tackle “Dating in the Office” you don’t want to miss it.
Before you lay it all on the line and bear your soul to someone, ask yourself one question. Is this my ego or my heart? Your heart will give you the courage to let someone know how you really feel who may not reciprocate the same feelings. Your ego will let you confuse love with pride and allow you to pursue someone who you don’t really like to save face.
Wasting your time pursuing someone who you don’t want or who hasn’t treated you well in the past is emotional suicide. The idea of being alone is scary but having to sit across the kitchen table with someone you don’t really like is way worse. Relationships take time and they can make the most independent and self-assured person weak. Move carefully, and check in with yourself to ensure that you’re not being ruled by your ego but only your heart.
Feel free to ask me relationship questions. I’ll post them so we can create a healthy and positive conversation.
Happy weekend and make sure to connect!
Happy VDAY Week! Wether you’re spending it alone or with someone, you need to pamper and spoil yourself this week. I’m focusing on health and beauty while trying to achieve a true balance in my life. I’ve stocked my fridge with healthy foods that promote cardiovascular health and longevity. I’m working out twice a day all week to get a good sweat in and I’m using oils and scented lotions to moisturize and hydrate my body. Why? Because I deserve it, I’m smart, witty and beautiful and though I’m not sharing my life with anyone at the moment. I believe in staying in “readiness mode.”
Are you taking care of yourself? Are you showing your mind and body the love and attention it deserves? If you’re not, join me and let’s turn this week into a celebration of ourselves.
Don’t forget that before you receive love you must love yourself first!
Quick question, are you a lingerie person? I’m not, but I love this teddy and bra set I saw online last week. Would you wear it?
So if you haven’t heard yet, Cassie the monotone singer and Sean Combs are now engaged. The 44 year old finally popped the question after years of dating. I applaud him for finally wanting to settle down and finally putting a “ring on it” but I can’t seem to stop thinking about Kim Porter.
Kim dated Sean who was known as “Puffy” back then and bore him 3 kids. Their relationship seemed to be one based on respect and though Sean seemed to step out with other women more notably Jennifer Lopez, she stayed.
I don’t want to take away from their engagement because it’s truly a beautiful thing. I just always wonder how the ex who has devoted so many years and sometimes children feels when their ex moves on and marries someone who hasn’t put in as much work.
I’m not sure if Kim saw the writing on the wall or thought their situation would get better but wherever she is, I hope she’s getting the love and support from someone who values her. Often times, men and women wise up after years of manipulating and emotionally abusing their exes. They get a “emotional revelation” and do their very best to correct past wrongs with their new partner leaving their old and often damaged ex in the dust.
If you’ve been the one who has been abandoned or tossed aside by someone you spent years dating, don’t dwell in your hurt. Be thankful for the experience, glean what you can and move forward with assurance that the RIGHT person will reciprocate life changing love with you.
If you’re dating someone who is stringing you along, dump them! It will hurt but you’ll be thankful that you didn’t waste your years with someone who didn’t value you enough to commit to a healthy relationship with you.
Check back this week for a “How to Impress His Parents” post and some of my own personal terror in-law stories;)
Love you ALL and Happy Dating!
I’ve had numerous conversations with men who remind me that a woman over 30 should be thankful for any attention she gets. In a world that is obsessed with youth and beauty, there has been times that I have thought that dating after 30 was pointless. It’s challenging when all of your girlfriends have settled down, are married or have started their families and you’re up late at night asking him what his favorite wing sauce is. It can cause some to become desperate and to wink at behavior that is unbecoming from their partners. As a relationship coach I’ve sat in countless sessions with women who believe that 30 means that they’re less desirable and not a great potential for wifedom.. That’s not true, if anything it makes you a well rounded partner and someone who has much more to give emotionally, financially and otherwise. I have noticed though that if a older a woman cannot get past hurts and disappointments, they can make her bitter which may blind her to someone who has great intentions towards her. That’s the only caveat of dating after 30. sometimes the “must-have” list is so long that you eliminate amazing people who can bring you great joy and love because you’re focused on time running out. That mentality is an affront to believing that you’re worthy of love and robs you of the experience of getting to know someone.. Can you promise to date without reservation this year? To not get caught up on how much he makes, how tall he is or what kind of car he drives. Can you just date him because he makes you laugh or because you love how you feel around him?
I agree that one has to be careful not to waste time in their precious 30′s with men who aren’t serious but this year. try to open your heart a wee wider and allow a guy who doesn’t have all of your requirements a chance at wooing you. You’re only wasting your time if you notice deal-breakers and you choose to ignore them, My wish for you is that you don’t allow age and time to mandate how you date. They aren’t factors, instead they’re fears.
Are you dating over 30? Have your experiences been positive or negative?
Let me know in the comment section and don’t forget to share this post and others with your girlfriends!