How do you know if he’s the One? Dating can be tricky and sometimes you can spend years with someone and still not be sure. I use the following list when I’m trying to decide if I can see a future with a potential suitor.

1) He makes you laugh. Laughter is so important and giggling with someone you love is not only good for your relationship but healthy for your heart.

2) He’s respectful. No man should call you out your name, disrespect you or make you feel less than special. If he’s a Asshole, dump him.

3) He loves his family. To be fair you can’t pick your family but it’s great when someone you care about loves to spend quality time with their parents and loved ones.

4) He plans epic and simple dates. Not every date has to end in a hot air ballon or on a villa over looking the sea, but he should put some thought into it. A movie night, symphony in the park or a food festival are all great date ideas that are enjoyable and won’t break the bank.

5) He understands your love language. My love language is gifts and quality time. You’d be surprised how far a $50 gift certificate to MAC and some FAceTime will do for me. If you want to be fulfilled in your relationship you need to discover what you need and share them with your partner.

So….I met someone a few weeks ago and I’m really enjoying getting to know him. He’s brilliant, witty, nerdy, talented and we can spend hours together and it feels like minutes. Who knows what the future holds but so far so good!
Are you dating right now? How did you meet? Do you think he/she is the one? I want ALL the sappy details;)

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I think it’s important to take a few months off between relationships to re-group, reflect, and decide what your next move will be. Dragging past hurt into a new relationship is setting the foundation for pain, confusion and a eventual breakup. No relationship is perfect and each person usually plays a part in the demise of their relationship. Your emotional maturity will determine if you make your next partner suffer the consequences that should have been reserved for the person who hurt you or if you use your past relationship as a learning experience.
It’s never too late to create a relationship standard and it will save you years of stress and heartache if you have a template on which you measure your relationships. Obviously you can change your list as your needs and life experiences change but some things on your list should be non-negotiables. Take a peek at my list below

Miss Reluctant’s Relationship Checklist

1) He must be kind, I have no time for jerks
2) He must be respectful
3) He must have a job
4) Lying is unacceptable
5) Cheating is unacceptable
6) Swearing and Abusive language is unacceptable
7) Drug use is unacceptable
8) He must be adventurous
9) If he has children, he must take care of them
10) If he doesn’t want to get married, we can’t date

Would you add anything to the list or take anything away? I’d love to hear your relationship lists. Wishing everyone a happy dating week and a steamy makeup session sometime this weekend;)!!!


It’s scary when after years of telling everyone “no” you meet someone you want to say “yes” to.

Originally posted on The Fickle Heartbeat:

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