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I think it’s important to take a few months off between relationships to re-group, reflect, and decide what your next move will be. Dragging past hurt into a new relationship is setting the foundation for pain, confusion and a eventual breakup. No relationship is perfect and each person usually plays a part in the demise of their relationship. Your emotional maturity will determine if you make your next partner suffer the consequences that should have been reserved for the person who hurt you or if you use your past relationship as a learning experience.
It’s never too late to create a relationship standard and it will save you years of stress and heartache if you have a template on which you measure your relationships. Obviously you can change your list as your needs and life experiences change but some things on your list should be non-negotiables. Take a peek at my list below

Miss Reluctant’s Relationship Checklist

1) He must be kind, I have no time for jerks
2) He must be respectful
3) He must have a job
4) Lying is unacceptable
5) Cheating is unacceptable
6) Swearing and Abusive language is unacceptable
7) Drug use is unacceptable
8) He must be adventurous
9) If he has children, he must take care of them
10) If he doesn’t want to get married, we can’t date

Would you add anything to the list or take anything away? I’d love to hear your relationship lists. Wishing everyone a happy dating week and a steamy makeup session sometime this weekend;)!!!

TRW

It’s scary when after years of telling everyone “no” you meet someone you want to say “yes” to.
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Woke up to this news alert and NOOOOOOO! I’m just kidding, this is great news and a win for women who are often teased for dating younger men. I love Ryan and Eva together, they’ve done a great job at keeping their relationship private and they seem to be very much in love. Congrats to this beautiful couple and my prayers to all the heartbroken Notebook fanatics out there!

http://ow.ly/yScmh Relationship Fix: Help, I can’t stand my In-laws #love #divorce #marriage

Are you divorced? If so, are you friendly with your in-laws? I had a long conversation with a friend yesterday who is struggling with being cordial with her ex in-laws. Her relationship ended a few years ago but she shares children with her ex-husband and occasionally she has to deal with his family. They weren’t supportive during the relationship and became downright vicious during their divorce.
With school out, her children have gotten invitations to hang out with their cousins and that means awkward drop-offs and one word conversations with her ex sister-in-law. My friend feels a bit put out and annoyed that her children have chosen to keep in contact with the side of their family who have been unkind to their mother. As a child of divorced parents, I know how fragile relationships can be especially after divorce. People take sides and leave people battered and bruised with words that are often hurled with partial information.
My advice to her was to understand that children unlike adults have the ability to forgive and forget. She shouldn’t be upset because they want to spend time with their family. Children shouldn’t have to defend or fight their parents battles. Secondly, I’d invite my in-laws out for lunch or coffee. Explain to them that though there’s been friction in the past, you want to forge a new and healthy relationship. Not only will you benefit from having your true feelings heard, your kids will learn conflict resolution. Lastly, I’d speak to my ex about creating healthy boundaries and how damaging “bad mouthing” each other is. Apologize if you must and move forward.
Relationships, even broken ones need someone to be an advocate of peace and humility. I can’t promise you that your ex and in-laws will be mature enough to be kind or receptive but you’ll be at peace knowing that you tried.

Are you dealing with crazy in-laws? Let me know in the comments

I appreciate all of you who read my blog and I’m thankful for our tiny dating community! Much love to you all and HAPPY DATING!

TRW

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