“Create boundaries so that people don’t come into your life behaving badly. Boundaries! When to say yes and when to say no. If you know how to and enjoy to and have a FIRM hand on saying “NO”, put your hand [up]. Boundaries require that you have a STRONG “NO”. A “no” that will PROTECT you. A “no” that will SUPPORT you. A “no” that will ADVANCE your “yes”! Because if you have a weak “no”, you’re GOING to have a weak “yes”. You’ll say “yes” because you feel obligated. You’ll say “yes” because you feel responsible. You’ll say “yes” because you don’t want to upset people. But when you have a STRONG no about what you will do, what you won’t do about your boundaries, when you’re clear about who you BE and what you’re up to and your purpose in the world, you’ll have a REAL strong no. You gotta have a strong “no”. You’ve got to build it from the inside out, so you don’t say YES to things that you’re not clear about, that don’t honor who you BE, that don’t honor the things that you value. It’s up to you. Your no will SAVE you. Be clear. Be authentic. BE authentic.”
Iyanla Vanzant

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