How do you deal with your in-laws? Are your cordial? Do you share holidays with them? Do you go on family vacations? I don’t have any in-laws per say but I’ve dealt with some challenging would be In-laws that have made me run for the hills! I think looking back, I made myself too available and a part of the family before I got a ring and not knowing my role sometimes caused conflict. I deal with my boyfriends parents differently now, and it’s prevented lots of stressful situations. Below are my 3 tips for not strangling your potential/current in-laws. 

1) Act like a girlfriend NOT a wife

I’m big on fixing plates, cooking, doing laundry, buying love trinkets all of the things that one should do for their significant other. I’ve learnt the hard way that I don’t necessarily need to do these things around my boyfriends family. I’ve dealt with territorial family and Mothers who want to pseudo-date their sons and it’s not worth the confusion or drama. I can fawn over my boyfriend in the privacy of our own space. 

2) Seperate Holidays

Holidays make sane people go crazy! There’s always the pressure of proposals, talking to annoying Aunties and dealing with calculating cousins. The best thing you can do to save yourself from the unnecessary grief is to celebrate holidays separately. I typically like to eat with my own family and meet the S/O for mocktails and games. No pressure and lots of holiday cheer 

3) Stay out of it! 

I don’t choose sides when it comes to family arguments, Nor do I agree when my S/O makes disrespectful or derogatory comments about his parents. Why? Because even if you’re right, you’ll be wrong. Create a place of solace for your mate to rant but try to keep your opinions neutral and don’t hold grudges. I’ve been in the situation so many times where I’m upset and family members have mended fences and I’m left with egg on my face.

I hope these tips help you maneuver the emotional land-mine littered field of in-laws. If you have any tips or questions feel free to post them in the comment section.
Happy dating!

Some of our relationships fizzle before they start for no apparent reason. Sometimes it’s a lack of communication, work stress, insecurities, and past issues. Whatever the reason, don’t try to breathe life into situations that need to end. It’s hard to walk away but in my experience relationships end when they need to. I’m in the midst of a fizzle and I don’t have any strong feelings about it. I could try to sort out what went wrong, do a follow up call or text but I have so much to offer and I shouldn’t have to sell my worth– it should be very apparent to the right suitor. 

I’m going to take the next couple of weeks to focus on my health, friendships and enjoy the new city I just moved to. Let’s encourage each other as we navigate the rocky seas of relationships and love. 

http://ow.ly/KQe64 these couples broke up last year!

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I had a date last weekend and it was glorious! Great food and better conversation. I’ve always wanted to try Yardhouse and I’m so glad I was able to share a delicious meal with a cutie. We walked around for a bit to work up a appetite, popping into a few stores and listening to live music. Yardhouse was packed! Lots of happy couples on dates, families and hipsters laughing and sipping at the bar. My only minor complaint is that though the atmosphere was dark and sexy, the lack of light was a bit challenging for me. It was hard to see the menu and I may have dropped the fork once or seven times LOL. 

My date had the Black Truffle Cheeseburger with onion rings, I had the Lamb Burger with Tuffle fries and we shared the Firecracker Wings and Shitake Garlic Noodles. Dinner came up to about $65 and our server was awesome!  (I typically don’t eat wings on dates but YOLO) 

What’s your favourite restaurant for a first date? 

Check out Yardhouse and their delicious menu here -> http://www.yardhouse.com/menu-listing/eat




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