If the fact that gay people can get married bothers you, you should ask yourself the following questions

Do you know any gay people?
Will you be officiating gay weddings?
If you’re against the “gay lifestyle” are you actively ministering to gay people?
Do you believe that some people should be excluded from having basic rights?

If you struggle to answer these questions then your “bigot slip” is showing from under your cloak of righteousness.

Let people love who they want to love.

it;s hard to stop going back to someone who doesn’t love you, but you must stop the cycle for your own emotional health.

it;s hard to stop going back to someone who doesn’t love you, but you must stop the cycle for your own emotional health.

Can i share some relationship advice that my brother gave me a few years ago? Ok, when you’re dating or getting to know someone who lives several hours away from you, see them as soon as possible. I know it seems wise to wait a few months to be safe just in case the person is pyscho, but in this day in age with FaceTime and Skype, if it’s been several months and you still haven’t seen the person that you claim to like it’s a clear indication that you really don’t like the person as much as you think you do. Before you say “it’s expensive to travel” if you can’t afford a plane ticket then you should focus on getting a part-time job and not a full-time boyfriend.

If you’re avoiding vulnerability, have lots of options, want to shed a few pounds or feel shy just STOP> The person you’re trying to get to know you at your worst or least secure and if you don;t trust them with that responsibility end the relationship immediately.
I’m a long-distance relationship expert, i won’t be challenged on this.

what secrets are you keeping from your partner?

NO married man should be eating microwaved meals. I think it’s fair for a woman to provide 6mths of approved meals containing 2 meats and 3 rotating sides. Feeding your husband has been touted as being backwards and archaic but I think it’s great to at least perfect a few meals that your husband loves. Not only will be it great for your budget, eating out costs more, it might be better for your waistline too. I love to eat but I’m not fond of cooking but I’ve tried to make it a habit to cook at least twice a week so I don’t lose my skills. I’ve perfected pasta, vegetarian dishes, Korean, West Indian and Thai food just by searching for recipes and stalking IG pages. With a bit of dedication and practice it’s not hard to add chef to your pre-marital resume.P

  

To make enough for two generous portions, you’ll need:

1 Cucumber

2 Large carrots

2 Spring onions

1 Handful of fresh coriander

1 Handful of fresh mint

1 Handful of peanuts (roughly chopped/smashed)

A couple of handfuls of shredded chicken/beef/duck/prawn/tofu/boiled eggs/whatever you fancy!

Dressing:

Juice of 1 lime

3tbsp Sesame oil

3tbsp Soy sauce

1tbsp Fish sauce

1tbsp chilli flakes

1tsbp honey

1 Clove of garlic


Mix it up and serve! 

What’s your favorite thing to cook? Do you cook for your husband or boyfriend? 
 

 How do you deal with your in-laws? Are your cordial? Do you share holidays with them? Do you go on family vacations? I don’t have any in-laws per say but I’ve dealt with some challenging would be In-laws that have made me run for the hills! I think looking back, I made myself too available and a part of the family before I got a ring and not knowing my role sometimes caused conflict. I deal with my boyfriends parents differently now, and it’s prevented lots of stressful situations. Below are my 3 tips for not strangling your potential/current in-laws. 

1) Act like a girlfriend NOT a wife

I’m big on fixing plates, cooking, doing laundry, buying love trinkets all of the things that one should do for their significant other. I’ve learnt the hard way that I don’t necessarily need to do these things around my boyfriends family. I’ve dealt with territorial family and Mothers who want to pseudo-date their sons and it’s not worth the confusion or drama. I can fawn over my boyfriend in the privacy of our own space. 

2) Seperate Holidays

Holidays make sane people go crazy! There’s always the pressure of proposals, talking to annoying Aunties and dealing with calculating cousins. The best thing you can do to save yourself from the unnecessary grief is to celebrate holidays separately. I typically like to eat with my own family and meet the S/O for mocktails and games. No pressure and lots of holiday cheer 

3) Stay out of it! 

I don’t choose sides when it comes to family arguments, Nor do I agree when my S/O makes disrespectful or derogatory comments about his parents. Why? Because even if you’re right, you’ll be wrong. Create a place of solace for your mate to rant but try to keep your opinions neutral and don’t hold grudges. I’ve been in the situation so many times where I’m upset and family members have mended fences and I’m left with egg on my face.

I hope these tips help you maneuver the emotional land-mine littered field of in-laws. If you have any tips or questions feel free to post them in the comment section.
Happy dating!

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